I don’t know what to do.

What to do when you don’t know what to do ….

So, you have this dilemma and no clue as to how to resolve or deal with it. The first step is to accept your powerlessness in this situation, that you can’t resolve this dilemma on your own, “I can’t do this in my own, please help me!” (The ‘please help me’ is far from negative: one gives up walking in order to be carried by that “Force of Nature”that imposes order and discipline and which acts powerfully and beautifully throughout the whole universe and in all human life. In that simple plea is an admission and an acceptance that you can’t do this on your own, and that you’re prepared to accept help from whatever source it comes from.)

Next, share your dilemma with another human being - a friend or priest, or anyone you can trust not to judge or criticise you and who will protect your confidentiality at all times. This is when the dilemma ceases to be a secret, and loses any power it might have had over you.

Options and possible resolutions to the dilemma now emerge during the day. The ones you reject are the ones that might cause harm to yourself or others. Whatever you’re left with will be the right course of action to take.

“But“ I hear you say, “how do I know that the decision I make will be the right course of action to take?”

Because there are no wrong decisions. Whatever decision you make, it’s either going to move you closer to what you want or it’s going to give you clarity on what you don’t want.

“So why am I so afraid of making that decision?”

Because it’s the same de’cide’ as in sui’cide’. You’re afraid of killing off half your options - and possibly the “wrong” half. So, you sit there doing nothing, waiting for some divine intervention to make the decision for you.

And you wonder why you’re stuck and your life’s not moving forward?!

Don’t be afraid of making the ‘wrong decision’. It’s an illusion - there are no wrong decisions. X

I’ll give you an extreme example of what I mean:

A friend of yours has been diagnosed with terminal cancer and decides to kill himself before the cancer does. Is that the wrong decision? He would argue it isn’t. It’s “wrong” for you because of the way you react to his decision. But that’s to do with your reaction not with his decision.

Again, I reiterate: THERE ARE NO WRONG DECISIONS. So, act today - now that you’ve found a way forward - to resolve your dilemma. X